You may think you are over your ex when in reality you are not. Keep in mind that just because you don’t want to be in a relationship with him anymore or because you don’t talk to her anymore does not mean you have truly moved on from the relationship.

So how do you know when you have moved on from a relationship? When you have really let go of the past?

You have let go of the past when you think about the person, the relationship and the situation and you feel grateful. You have no regrets.

If feeling grateful for your old relationship seems impossible or hard to do, I promise you it is possible. Not only is it possible, but it’s critical to finding the love you have been wanting!

Why is letting go of the past so important? Because if you have negative feelings about something that happened in the past, then your past becomes your present AND your future!

Here’s how it works.

If you have unresolved feelings about a past relationship and then something happens in your life that reminds you of that situation, maybe you hear a song or run into a mutual friend, suddenly you will get triggered and feel all the old unpleasant feelings again. You may say, he is just like “so and so” or all men are like that. Even if the relationship ended one year ago or even ten years ago, you are experiencing those same feelings right now in the present. And so you are bringing your past into present.

So you may become angry with him, or decide that he is just like your ex. Or maybe you experience such strong feelings that you are drawn to him. And now you have just brought the past into your future.

Now imagine you feel grateful for the past relationship. Even if it ended in a way you did not want and you felt hurt and betrayed. If you have resolution with the past, when you think about the relationship you feel good. Maybe you grew as a person, maybe you learned how to forgive, maybe you accomplished something great that you would never have done if you stayed in that situation. Now you feel grateful.

Imagine you are on a date with a man and he says or does something that triggers those feelings. You may become angry with him, or decide that he is just like your ex. Or maybe you experience such strong feelings that you are drawn to him, feeling attracted only because he is activating strong emotions within you. Now you have just brought the past into your future. And you wonder why seem to attract the same type of guy over and over again.

To find out exactly how to let go of past relationship click here to get a recording of the Dating for True Love Radio show “Get Resolution from the Past”.